“Why are you so quiet?”…the phrase that gets told to you so many times…probably in every group hangout. I’m the type of person that is more loud with one person, rather than in a group. In a group, I feel more awkward…and just quiet. If you want to build up your confidence and find ways to improve your social skills, then keep on reading.
1. Keep Your Phone On
Sometimes when you’re tired of the world and everything else, you just want to hide under blankets and keep to yourself in your batcave. Technology is pretty amazing, so even if you’re tired of the world, keep your phone on. As Andy Mort says in his blog:
“switch your phone onto the loudest setting, turn on all push notifications and spend all your moments of solitude keeping in touch with people.”
You can become members of online communities such as Reddit.com or comment on your favorite blog posts. It is usually easier to weigh in online than in person. Start practicing your social skills online first, then apply what you learn in real life. Many famous bloggers with thousands of readers are actually introverted people. Yet, they get engaged in deep conversations with their audience. You can also start by posting on your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram account, and get engaged with your online friends.
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2. Take Classes for Introverts
This may sound crazy, and you’re probably thinking, “Why would I want to take a class on becoming an extrovert?” But believe me, taking a class can help you build more confidence in yourself. These classes are usually a safe place to practice social skills with other people and also professionals. Sarah Jones, the founder of Introverted Alpha, is a coach in helping introverted men become finding their attractiveness and confidence. As she mentions clearly on her website:
“Our intention is to be the clear and unequivocal choice for introverted men who want to attract women naturally without being someone they’re not.”
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3. Don’t Let Barriers Stop You
Don’t let anything stop you. If you’re feeling nervous or scared, tell yourself that you can do it. As Dave Ursillo says in his article:
“Like any skill, socializing takes practice. I’ve gotten better and better at it over time, and in spite of your nerves, stretching your boundaries step-by-step will help you grow to become pretty good at witty banter and that typical back-and-forth of conversations when meeting new people.”
You just have to keep going, step by step, and not letting any barriers prevent you from doing so.
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4. Set Challenges
Setting challenges will help you slowly towards your goal of becoming an extrovert. As Joanna L K Moore says in her article:
“Be sure to only push yourself when it’s shyness that’s holding you back. Don’t push yourself to socialize if what’s stopping you from wanting to socialize is your introversion. Ask yourself, “am I avoiding this situation because I’m scared or because I’d have a nicer time on my own?”
Do push yourself if you want to do something, but you know you’re shy. But don’t push yourself into doing activities that you don’t want to do. The bottom line is that social interactions are not easy. Even the most famous performers have stage anxiety, but they do it anyway. They just practice hard to get over their anxiety. Most of them start by setting up small challenges and then move up the latter step by step.
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Conclusion
Being an introvert does indeed suck, but don’t let that stop you. Make sure to turn your phone on to keep people in contact, take some introverted classes to help build your confidence you didn’t know you have in yourself, don’t let barriers stop you from doing something you want to do, and set challenges to force yourself to do something you want to do. If you’re an introvert and have some tips, let us know!
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